"And now we welcome the new year. Full of things that have never been" - Rainer Maria Rilke
A brand new year. An opportunity to do things differently, to begin again.
I hope you remember in this coming year that:
It’s ok to not be perfect because when you can accept that you are imperfect you will finally realize you are perfect just the way you are.
It’s ok to be disappointed when something doesn’t work out the way you hoped because eventually, you’ll see that this disappointment brought an opportunity that never would have happened had what you wanted actually come into fruition.
It’s ok to not always be strong or brave or courageous.
It’s ok to not clean out his closet for days or weeks or years or ever even, if it never feels right. It was a love so deep and for so long, most of us only dream of experiencing that.
It’s okay to say goodbye to people without actually saying the words. Send them love, or not. Wish them well, or not. And let them go. Close the door. Move on.
It's also ok to say no. As much as you want, to whatever doesn't feel right in your soul.
It’s ok to not practice yoga or meditate or journal. You can still be a deep, meaningful, inspired, creative, spiritual person.
It’s ok to not be over him or her yet. Know that with enough time and distance, you will be one day.
It’s ok to try a million different things over the course of your lifetime. You're a complex, ever-evolving person and hey, it gives you so many great stories to tell.
It's ok if you don’t feed your kids homemade organic meals from scratch every night and you opt for a box of Mac and Cheese.
It’s ok if the house is messy and you move the clothes from the bed to the floor for a week straight.
It’s ok if you delete friends off social media. And it’s ok if that’s me.
And it's definitely okay if you decide to delete social media altogether. The world will go on.
It’s ok if you fall off the diet wagon day two of the new year. And it’s definitely ok to say a big FU to diets in general.
It’s ok to want to grow and change and shed old skin. Even if you are worried what others may think. Even if it feels scary.
It's okay to stop caring what other's think. In fact, I highly recommend it.
It’s ok to go to the grocery store and buy nothing on your list but come home realizing you just bought $150 worth of food.
It’s ok to start over...and over ... and over again until you find what fits.
It’s ok if you like to say fuck. It’s really ok.
It's ok if some days you just want to hide away and turn off your phone and watch twenty-five episodes of Sex and the City.
It's ok to not have it all figured out.
It's ok to be different and fully embrace it.
It's ok to cry a lot. Again, you are a complex human with a ton of emotions.
It's ok to want more for yourself and it's ok to be perfectly happy with where you are right now.
It's ok to let go of the need to be a certain size.
It's ok to stop coloring your hair and embrace the grey and it's ok to color your hair until the day you die.
It’s ok to be 37 and still single after 4 years.
It’s ok to eat quesadillas for lunch for a week straight. Quesadillas are really good.
I can go on and on but the moral of the story is, I hope you go into 2018 knowing wherever you are, right this moment, is perfectly ok.
Stop being so hard on yourself.
Here is to a brand-spankin' new year.