The Day I Stood in the Ice Cream Aisle -- A Reflection on How Far I’ve Come

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I just stood there staring at all of my choices. There was everything from Chocolate chunk and Cherry Garcia to the many assortments of vegan coconut flavors I have grown to love. There was plain vanilla, always a favorite, and plain chocolate and Neapolitan. Am I the only one who actually loves the strawberry in Neapolitan?

My world stood still as I repeated the names in my head, waiting for one to scream yes, that’s the one that will fix everything but it never came. My body felt numb, my eyes puffy and my heart shattered in a million little pieces. How will I ever put them all back together I wondered? There was a time, years ago, that a pint of cool, creamy ice cream would do the trick, momentarily anyway, and that is what led me to this very place, at this very moment.

I continued scanning the cooler, growing a little panicked that nothing was registering with my need to stuff, to fill the hole that was once my heart. Nothing was jumping out of the grocery store cooler into my little basket. I wanted desperately to return to my old ways of comfort but realized in that moment that I couldn’t. There was no turning back; I have come too far now. I no longer craved that anymore.

What I craved now was new to me but so much power rested in knowing that I couldn’t stuff down this sadness, I had to actually feel it, work my way through it the best way I know how.

I pivoted on my heels and walked away from the comfort I once turned to in times of pain and sorrow and headed straight for the produce section. What I need, more than anything was to feed myself in the only way I know to be comforting now.

I loaded my basket with kale and avocado and humus and carrots and was reminded that this was truly what I was craving. Not to stuff away what I was feeling but to do the very thing I was always too afraid to do; feel and to nourish and nurture myself through this. 

My life feels as if it is in a million pieces on the ground right now and I’m not ready to talk openly about why, however, what I’m realizing is how far I have come over the last few years. How I use to head straight to the ice cream isle for some kind of momentary reprieve but now, in this time of sadness I’m also filled with gratitude and hope and knowledge that this too will pass and I will come out ahead. A Stronger, better Amanda.

I no longer want that pint but to remember how this feels so that when I have moved on and it’s all said and done, I will know just how far I have come. I will remember because I've allowed myself to feel all of it. 


A Savoury Soul: Betsy Fry // Betsy Fry Coaching & Find Food Peace

       Betsy and I met in a networking/support group that we are both apart of on facebook for women entrepreneurs.  When we first started the group which happened by chance, I had a great time checking out the other six or so ladies and seeing what they are up to in their lives and businesses. You will see all those ladies featured here (some all ready have been) soon

       Betsy and I have a lot in common. Both life/nutrition/wellness coaches and both with a mission to help woman break the cycle of emotional eating and take back their empowerment to live happier, healthier, fuller lives. Betsy was trained in the Martha Beck Life Coaching program, is a lover of running, yoga and like me, a huge animal enthusiast :)

       Read on to get to know Betsy a little more...

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        Tell me more about Betsy Fry coaching. What is your specialty, what do you love about coaching?

I am a Martha Beck trained life coach, which means that I work on helping people get rid of their negative thoughts in order to clear them up to live a more powerful life.  I specialize in weight loss and body image coaching for successful women.   What I love most about coaching is watching women transform before my eyes.  They are able to drop their fears, insecurities and excuses and start living their best life within weeks of us working together.

I love your blog, Find Food Peace and your emphasis on breaking from emotional eating. What is a common theme amongst people’s emotional eating habits?

First off, thank you for the compliment!  The most common underlying theme below emotional eating is the deep seeded thought “I am not worth it.”  Women tend to give their everything to the world around them and then there is nothing left to give themselves, which leads them to think they are not worth the effort put into weight loss.  Through coaching, they are able to release those thoughts and start making the investment into themselves.

           What are your non-negotiables when it comes to healthy living?

My personal non-negotiables are not skipping workouts no matter what is going on in my life, getting an adequate amount of sleep and trying to stay away from processed foods.

           What is your biggest accomplishment on your health journey?

Last year I worked out for 365 days straight and blogged about it here  It was the most challenging task I have ever undertaken, but I learned that I am stronger than I think and can accomplish whatever I make my #1 priority.

I would love for you to share your best tip on staying healthy during the crazy busy summer months

The best tip to staying healthy is making yourself your #1 priority no matter what is going on in your life.  If things are crazy busy for you, then just carve out 30 minutes of alone time to get in a run, a simple yoga flow or some meditation.  Do whatever you can to show yourself love during this time and it will set you up for peace and success in every other realm of your life.

          What is a Savoury Soul to you?

A Savoury Soul is a soul that is three-dimensional:  mind, body and soul.  The mind is cared for with peaceful thoughts, the body is deeply nourished from nutritious foods and loved to the core with regular exercise and the soul is taken care of daily with an individual’s spiritual practice.

Betsy FryMartha Beck trained Life Coach, yoga guru, running fanatic, failed meditation(er), recovering donut addict, animal obsessionist, vegan wannabe, self-help maniac.

You can find her on Facebook and Twitter or on her website here.