It's Okay To Do This


"And now we welcome the new year. Full of things that have never been" - Rainer Maria Rilke

A brand new year. An opportunity to do things differently, to begin again. 

I hope you remember in this coming year that: 

It’s ok to not be perfect because when you can accept that you are imperfect you will finally realize you are perfect just the way you are.

It’s ok to be disappointed when something doesn’t work out the way you hoped because eventually, you’ll see that this disappointment brought an opportunity that never would have happened had what you wanted actually come into fruition. 

It’s ok to not always be strong or brave or courageous.  

It’s ok to not clean out his closet for days or weeks or years or ever even, if it never feels right. It was a love so deep and for so long, most of us only dream of experiencing that. 

It’s okay to say goodbye to people without actually saying the words. Send them love, or not. Wish them well, or not. And let them go. Close the door. Move on. 

It's also ok to say no. As much as you want, to whatever doesn't feel right in your soul. 

It’s ok to not practice yoga or meditate or journal. You can still be a deep, meaningful, inspired, creative, spiritual person. 

It’s ok to not be over him or her yet. Know that with enough time and distance, you will be one day. 

It’s ok to try a million different things over the course of your lifetime. You're a complex, ever-evolving person and hey, it gives you so many great stories to tell. 

It's ok if you don’t feed your kids homemade organic meals from scratch every night and you opt for a box of Mac and Cheese. 

It’s ok if the house is messy and you move the clothes from the bed to the floor for a week straight. 

It’s ok if you delete friends off social media. And it’s ok if that’s me. 

And it's definitely okay if you decide to delete social media altogether. The world will go on. 

It’s ok if you fall off the diet wagon day two of the new year. And it’s definitely ok to say a big FU to diets in general. 

It’s ok to want to grow and change and shed old skin. Even if you are worried what others may think. Even if it feels scary. 

It's okay to stop caring what other's think. In fact, I highly recommend it. 

It’s ok to go to the grocery store and buy nothing on your list but come home realizing you just bought $150 worth of food. 

It’s ok to start over...and over ... and over again until you find what fits. 

It’s ok if you like to say fuck. It’s really ok. 

It's ok if some days you just want to hide away and turn off your phone and watch twenty-five episodes of Sex and the City. 

It's ok to not have it all figured out. 

It's ok to be different and fully embrace it. 

It's ok to cry a lot. Again, you are a complex human with a ton of emotions. 

It's ok to want more for yourself and it's ok to be perfectly happy with where you are right now. 

It's ok to let go of the need to be a certain size. 

It's ok to stop coloring your hair and embrace the grey and it's ok to color your hair until the day you die.  

It’s ok to be 37 and still single after 4 years. 

It’s ok to eat quesadillas for lunch for a week straight. Quesadillas are really good. 

I can go on and on but the moral of the story is, I hope you go into 2018 knowing wherever you are, right this moment, is perfectly ok. 

Stop being so hard on yourself. 

Here is to a brand-spankin' new year. 

Finding Adventure in the Everyday

adventure When you read this post I'll probably be flying somewhere over the Pacific ocean on my way to Hong Kong, India, Cambodia and Thailand. I love and live for adventure. It brings me great joy to pack a bag and just go, however, I've come to realize in the last few years that being adventurous doesn't necessarily mean you have to get on a plane and go somewhere.

You can find adventure in everything and everywhere

The last two months I've been struggling with what I so easily call 'the seasonal funk.' I've been really trying to dive in to what it is I'm actually feeling and  I've come to realize that I'm not really sad or feeling depressed so to speak, but rather I'm not truly living how I want to be living.

I'm lacking regular adventure.  

In the past I have placed so much emphasis on adventure being this big, hugely wild experience (kind of like traveling all over the world) and but I can also get that sense of adventure in my own back yard. My soul craves regular adventure and trying new things but obviously I can't jump on a plane and cruse all over the world all the time (not yet anyway) so I really need to find ways to experience that adventurous feeling here, in Oregon as well. 

Even though we are heading off to an epic adventure,  I still need to find adventure in the everyday to truly be happy and feel like myself. 

So how can I/we do this?  It's actually quite easy. 

comfort zone

I'm going to start living outside of my comfort zone where the real magic happens and I'm inviting YOU to join me!

I've lived in Oregon for almost three years and I still feel like a stranger in my own city. There are small towns and bigger cities to be explored as well as mountains to hike and ocean towns to be perused. I'm going to make it an adventure to go out and explore this beautiful place where I get to call home. 

I'm also going to do the following: 

- I'm going to put myself out there more. I mean, like hosting workshops and lectures and networking events where I have to talk in front of large amounts of people.(My secret dream but one of my biggest fears!)

- I'm going to experiment more in the kitchen and try to create more new recipes on my own instead of fearing I'll mess up

- I'm going to walk around the house in short shorts more often and feel confident and sexy in the body I have. 

- I'm going to do more of what I really want to do instead of what I think I have to or should do. 

What can YOU do to add more adventure into your life? It doesn't have to be a big, huge thing. It can be as simple as taking  a different route, one that you've never taken before. 

While I'm away I am having some of my friends sharing posts with you with the theme of adventure and to show you other's experiences with finding adventure in almost anything you do. 

I'm sure I will pop in to say hi while I'm away but part of this adventure is being very present in the moment and this trip with my husband.  I'm excited for this adventure. 

But tell me in the comments what is one thing you are going to do to embrace a sense of adventure in your everyday life?